A private relationship reflection tool

Before you decide what to do,
make space to reflect.

QOYCA offers a structured sequence of written questions for reflecting on your relationship in your own time. It does not assess your relationship or tell you whether to stay, leave or take any other action.

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A one-time digital purchase. The price, included files and device requirements will be shown clearly before checkout.

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Everything you need to know before you begin.

What is it?

A private, self-guided relationship reflection tool with an ordered sequence of questions and space for your written responses.

Who is it for?

For people who sense something has changed, feel stuck in thought loops, or want to understand the relationship before deciding what comes next.

What does it provide?

A consistent structure for writing about themes such as needs, patterns, boundaries, compromise, fear, habit, loyalty and hope.

How might I use it?

Use the prompts to record your own observations and return to them later. There is no score, interpretation, recommendation or guaranteed result.

What do I receive?

A downloadable digital reflection tool to use locally on a compatible device. The Gumroad listing will state the exact contents and requirements before purchase.

Where do I start?

Click the button below, make an unrushed moment for yourself, and answer fully. The tool asks the questions. Only you can answer them.

01 / OUR BELIEF

The tool does not decide for you.

When you want to handle things in your own way, QOYCA offers a private structure for writing through questions at your own pace.

02 / WHY QOYCA EXISTS

I know what it feels like to think in circles.

I didn’t need more advice. I needed different questions.

I am naturally an overthinker. I can replay a situation, a choice, or something someone said for far longer than is useful – turning it over from every angle until clarity feels further away, not closer.

At times, it felt like being stuck in mud. What helped was not another opinion, but a different question: one that interrupted the loop and gave me a way to write about what I had been avoiding. QOYCA grew from the tools I wished I had then.

Built from lived experience, careful reading and a practical process for organising difficult relationship reflections into written prompts.

QOYCA / RELATIONSHIPS

Not a verdict.
A guided reflection.

The Relationship Reflection Tool presents questions about themes that may be relevant to relationships, including needs, boundaries, patterns and compromise. It does not identify problems, evaluate your partner, assess whether a relationship is healthy or safe, or recommend a particular decision.

  • A downloadable digital reflection tool – no app to install
  • Work through it privately, at your own pace
  • QOYCA does not receive your written responses; they remain on your device when the tool is used as described
  • Gumroad processes purchase and delivery details under its own privacy terms
  • No AI-generated answers, analysis or advice
  • Structured reflection – not advice or diagnosis

Your honesty is the key. The tool does not generate answers, interpretations or advice with AI. Take your time and answer fully, not just quickly. The questions provide a structure for your own writing. There is no score, interpretation or promised outcome.

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03 / HOW IT WORKS

Quietly. Honestly. In your own time.

This is not a form to race through. It is designed for unrushed, honest reflection. What you decide, and whether you take any action, remains entirely your responsibility.

1

Make space

Choose an unrushed moment when you can answer for yourself – not for your partner, family or friends.

2

Face the questions

Answer honestly, truthfully and in full. Stay with the difficult questions instead of reaching for the quickest response.

3

Review what you wrote

Return to your responses in your own time. The tool does not evaluate them, predict an outcome or tell you how to act.

Questions only you can answer

What deserves
your honest attention?

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A note of care

QOYCA is an educational self-reflection product for adults. It is not therapy, counselling, medical or mental-health care, legal advice, diagnosis, treatment, crisis support or a safety assessment, and it is not a substitute for a qualified professional. It cannot determine whether your relationship is healthy or safe or what decision you should make. You remain responsible for your decisions and actions. If you feel unsafe, use a safe device and contact emergency services or a trusted local support organisation.